21 - How to Be the BEST Coach: A Complete Guide to Creating Transformation With Your Clients
Are you a GREAT coach, or are you just another amateur? Learn how to be the most legendary coach your clients have ever known in today’s episode of Payday With Rayray.
“We need each other to step up and provide better results.”
– Rachel Bell
In this episode, I’ll tell the story of my first-ever experience with a coach and what I think needs serious fixing within the coaching industry. You’ll walk away with three of the most important skills to have in your coaching toolbox so you can step up into your position as a leader. Buckle up, sweethearts, cuz you’re about to blast out of mediocre-ville and find your rightful place among the stars.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from me in this episode:
How to know if you’re a coach for the RIGHT reasons.
What I learned from my first coaching experience.
What typical coaching looks like (and why you don’t want to be basic).
The 3 pillars of your coaching skills toolbox.
How to take the reins and lead your client.
The 6 keys to rock-solid communication.
How to incorporate rituals into your coaching practice.
Show Notes
01:00 – Introducing today’s episode: Becoming the best coach ever.
02:30 – Some information about Online Coach Accelerator.
07:30 – The coaching industry is like the Wild West right now – there’s no regulation.
08:15 – My mission is to heal the coaching industry; we need each other to do that.
09:15 – Get into coaching for the right reasons; to transform, serve, and give.
10:40 – You are your brand; if you don’t deliver your reputation will suffer.
12:00 – My experience with my first coach and what I took away from it.
13:55 - I learned what I didn’t want to do with my own clients.
15:30 – You’ve got to do well and help produce results if you want to get more clients.
15:50 – What typical coaching looks like: You let the client take control, talk too much, have no plan, are unreliable, and don’t take responsibility for a lack of results.
18:55 – The 3 pillars to your coaching skills toolbox: foresight, communication, and rituals.
19:25 – Pillar #1: Foresight - Being able to look ahead and predict a path for your clients.
21:30 – At the beginning of anything, set frames and expectations for the time, topic, agenda, and big picture.
26:50 – Address the elephants up front – but get consent first.
31:42 – Embrace leadership and direction – ask directed questions.
34:50 – Pillar #2: Communication – Effective communication is key in any relationship.
35:35 – Authoritative speaking: Downward inflection, going slowly, removing filler words, and giving a response later if you don’t know.
44:00 – Effective digging: Helping your clients go deeper to get a more efficient answer using the words “what” and “how”.
47:10 – Active listening: Bypass assumptions, reflect, and ask for ecology and confirmation.
50:14 – Metaphors and proverbs: They stick with your clients and show them the bigger picture when you use them in the moment.
52:55 – Sticky values: A repeated phrase that you consistently come back to as a general rule.
55:50 – Role fluidity: Be fluid between your roles with your clients as their coach, friend, and sage.
58:10 – Pillar #3: Rituals – Your clients can rely on them for flexibility and predictability.
59:30 – Start your calls the same way and exemplify the energy you want on the call.
01:00:30 – We do grounding exercises, pre-call intention-setting, and ritualized weekly progress data-tracking to show your client the value of your work.
01:03:10 – Decide how to open, close and conduct coaching calls.
“As a coach your job is to show up and lead, not to be led.”
– Rachel Bell
Exercise
Are you using every pillar inside your coaching skills toolbox? Where can you improve?
