20 - Procrastination & Perfectionism: END Your Self-Sabotage & 10x Your Productivity
Is your perfectionism and procrastination keeping you STUCK? Learn how to set yourself free and skyrocket your productivity on this episode of Payday With Rayray.
“You want to be loved for who you are, not what you do.”
– Rachel Bell
In this episode, I’ll reveal the ugly cycle of perfectionism and procrastination and ruthlessly (with love, of course) call-out the four biggest reasons we self-sabotage. You’ll get the tools to finally break the habit and, together, we’ll put our hands over our hearts and demand MORE. Prepare yourselves, fellow perfectionists and procrastinators – it’s about to get real up in here but I promise it’ll be totally worth it.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from me in this episode:
The vicious and BUTT-UGLY cycle of perfectionism and procrastination.
The real mind-f*ck about the whole thing.
The 4 biggest reasons for self-sabotage.
Tools to BREAK the habit and set yourself FREE (fly, little bird!).
A promise to make to yourself – now and forever.
Show Notes
01:00 – Introducing today’s episode: Perfectionism and procrastination.
02:10 – Juicy deets about Online Coach University.
04:15 – My personal journey with procrastination and perfection.
05:00 – How it feels to be a perfectionist/procrastinator.
06:15 – You know your capacity is so much greater than what you have to show for it.
07:00 – Overwhelm, “harmless” distractions, avoidance, and feelings of “not enough”.
08:10 – Nobody wants the perfect you – and you don’t, either.
09:05 – If you want to become who you are meant to be, survival isn’t enough.
09:45 – The crazy 8 cycle of perfectionism and procrastination:
10:30 – You dream, you take the first steps, and self-doubt creeps in.
11:25 – You hate yourself for distracting yourself and putting it off.
11:55 – You envision a new, perfect outcome, you take the first step.
12:20 – Self-doubt creeps in, and the cycle begins again.
12:25 – Procrastination comes into play to limit your action.
12:40 – Your action is limited to negate the risk of something not being perfect.
13:05 – People stop when they experience self-doubt because it points out what you need to improve; then they go into denial.
15:35 – Why we self-sabotage:
15:50 – 1.) Childhood programming – we’ve been trained by our past.
19:20 – Educational upbringing – we’ve learned that we pass or fail.
22:19 – 2.) We compare our internal state to other people’s highlights.
24:30 – Our comparisons mutate into jealously and judgement.
25:05 – 3.) We hide from the doubt that we can fulfill our destiny.
26:50 – 4.) We’re good at clever excuses – and sometimes don’t even know it.
26:25 – Procrastinating is a hiding mechanism and perfectionism is a from crippling insecurity.
27:35 – The reality is, you still had the same amount of excuses before the pandemic as you do now, as you will after.
29:40 – Commit to being something different – something better.
30:50 – The toolkit to beat perfection and procrastination:
31:00 – Give yourself healthy leveraged pressure to help keep you accountable and on the line.
32:28 – Put due dates on everything you do and accept that your first iteration will not be the best.
33:30 – Try “sprint sessions” like the Pomodoro Technique.
35:25 – Sprint sessions allow you to take breaks, digest your dreams, and become more efficient.
37:00 – Go on a low information diet and monitor your screen time.
38:50 – Stop checking your phone in the morning, delete apps, and try a digital detox.
40:00 – Pick your battles: “Ask yourself, will this matter on my deathbed?”
41:00 – Take messy action and create fearlessly.
“Put your hand over your heart and say: ‘I am SO DONE with playing small. I know that I am MEANT FOR MORE and I will fearlessly pursue that FOREVER.”
– Rachel Bell
