51 - Entrepreneur Diary: Making Friends, Drama & Effective Communication with Alyse Parker

Jan 22

Jan 22 51 - Entrepreneur Diary: Making Friends, Drama & Effective Communication with Alyse Parker

Finding good friends can be hard. Listen in as Alyse and I share how to attract true friends and connect deeply in a way that creates a lasting relationship – and learn what to do if you discover someone simply isn’t a good fit.

“Be open to exposing yourself and sharing yourself with other people.”

– Alyse Parker

In this episode, we’ll share how we’ve cultivated such a powerful friendship over the years. You’ll learn how we met, what we do to communicate effectively, and why we never fight. We’ll also share how to take responsibility for your role in a friendship so you can be a better friend, build your support system, and live a life with your favorite people by your side.

Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Alyse and me in this episode:

How we met and Alyse’s evolution.
How to ATTRACT and cultivate supportive friendships.
How RADICAL RESPONSIBILITY fits in when making (and keeping) friends.
Why you don’t have to be FAKE to be a magnet for amazing friends.
What we do so we NEVER fight.
How we balance each other out (as BFFs AND housemates!).
A process for handling friend breakups with ease.
Our favorite things about each other.

Show Notes

01:00 – Introducing Alyse.
03:30 – What it takes to create a supportive relationship.
04:00 – About Alyse and how she and I met.
10:00 – Our parallels, similarities, and connection.
10:30 – How Alyse attracts and cultivates supportive friendships.
12:40 – The more you open yourself up, the more you’ll attract the people you want.
14:40 – Remember that all humans want connection – not just you.
15:15 – Take radical responsibility and exemplify who you wish to become.
16:00 – Alyse’s background with relationships and how she started evolving.
20:25 – She started meditating, journaling, being active, and saying mantras and practicing affirmations.
21:20 – Become what you want to attract.
22:50 – Your magnetism in order to find friendships doesn’t have to be fake.
23:30 – Give yourself permission for yourself to accept friendships and put yourself out there!
25:45 – We don’t get the opportunity to make friends as often as adults; we have to make the opportunity.
28:20 – We study how to communicate, have healthy relationships, and actively work to embody our highest self.
31:15 – Alyse first asks if I’m available to talk about something vulnerable and she recognizes her vulnerability and the part of her that is triggered in the moment.
35:00 – Share how committed you are to your friendships; that mutual willingness to go there allows you to open up even more.
36:50 – Understand your attachment level to other people, too.
37:30 – How to get unattached and still go for new relationships; paint the vision of what could be and be okay with if it doesn’t.
40:00 – If you can’t hold a new relationship, be transparent about what you want with that person.
41:15 – Our balance: Alyse helps me live more intentionally and I help her live more fully and stand up for herself.
45:15 – Understand what you express best and share it with your BFF so you can help each other grow in a handbook.
47:15 – Friend breakups:
- 48:00 – Look at it, be honest about the role you play, and have a conversation where you’re actively retiring the roles and understanding the impact of the role you play.
53:00 – View conversations as healing and exciting, not cumbersome and daunting; with clear communication this can be the case.
57:50 – Our favorite things about each other: My favorite thing about Alyse is her purity and innocence.
59:30 – Alyse’s favorite thing about me is how much I embody the belief that life is happening for me (and I’m a good time!).